“Daring Greatly”
Reblogged From “Daring Greatly”
I had a personal story that I wrote about myself, my struggles, my family
and posted on Facebook.
It went viral over a period of 2 weeks..
(over 142 comments 75 shares)
Most are good comments but for some reason it was the
few “ugly comments” that stood out and brought me down for days.
I know I should be happy my story went viral with dozens of inquiries about my business,
but you know
how you get called into your boss’ office for reviews…
all the conversation about accomplishments were forgotten and
all you can remember is the “Room for Improvement” section.
I was depressed and wonder why people are so mean??
Most people think marketing is all about me, me, me.
Most people had no idea how much courage it takes to put yourself out there
and be available for all kinds of critics.
It is also a constant battle in my mind to remind myself that
I am worthy despite of my past, “I am already successful”,
I am not here to brag, but to inspire.
This is why I researched about “how to tell your story” and guess what,
my friend Stephen Munson in a training video suggested to look at “vulnerability” research by Dr. Brene Brown.
I am so grateful Stephen suggested this,
It clear out a lot of my insecurity and noises, and confusion about my success.
Of course, this is a work in progress everyday.
The original meaning of “Courage” means share all of yourself with your whole heart.
It requires courage that allow yourself to be 100% vunerable, including shame, failures and painful past.
I had to constantly anchor myself back to the core of “why” I am doing what I am doing and remind myself that this is not about winning or losing; it is not about getting likes on facebook or not.
This is about allowing myself to be in the “arena” and get my ass kicked a couple of times and inspire others to be courageous and authentic.
It is the courageous ones allow themselves to be vulnerable.
The truth is, “Vulnerability” is the cornerstone of confidence.
Realize that everyone has a past, “everyone”,
including the ones who looked perfect,
It is okay to be vulnerable and
be your true self.
We do not need to be perfect.
All we need to do is BE OURSELVES.
Take risk to be seen who we really are.
You are worthy as who you are.
We are worthy. Period.
It is not your job to have everyone approved of you.
It is your job in your life to be YOU and
give value to others by being you.
If you are interested in where all this started, I made a playlist of this video series.
Feel free to share this story if you think someone can be helped with this message.
~Cindy, Find your Aloha. (connect with me on facebook)
